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When Your Heart Is Black And Blue

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Let’s not pretend that we don’t have a problem on our hands.

And let’s not pretend it isn’t a deep-seated, tender, ripped-raw one.

Let’s not pretend that sin doesn’t abound where words are many, or that complete silence is any better.

Let’s not pretend that hard conversations don’t need to take place, or that we’ll not have to stay silent long enough to listen first.

Let’s stop pretending that passion is better than compassion, or anger more effective than empathy.

Let’s stop pretending we know what it’s like to live in the skin of a black man, or behind the badge of the law.

Please let’s stop.

Let’s stop pretending that our words don’t matter, or that venom spewed onto screens through tapped-out keys in any way lessens the power of life or death they carry.

Let’s not pretend that our fierce loyalty to our people in any way removes the responsibility to love and honor those we don’t consider our own.

Let’s stop pretending that the snippets and segments delivered to our screens carry the full story.  And let’s not pretend that what sells and smears isn’t top priority.

Let’s not pretend that we don’t live in a fallen world, surrounded by other broken people reacting to discomfort out of their own wounding.  Or that their wounds are any less painful than our own.

Let’s not ever pretend that the call to be known for our love will be deemed less important because of our deep need to be known for what we stand for, or against.

Let’s not pretend.

Let’s not pretend that things don’t need to change or that justice is a dirty word.

Let’s not pretend that ranting on social media will help in any way, or change set minds.

Let’s not pretend that creating space for someone else’s heartache and grief in any way undermines our own.  Let’s not pretend there isn’t room at the table for all of us.

Let’s not pretend that being easily offended is the same thing as being loyal.  Or that seeking and speaking truth makes us a traitor.

And please let’s stop pretending that the badly behaved few represent the good-hearted many.

Please, beloved, let’s stop pretending.

Let’s not pretend that the lack of racial diversity in our inner circles doesn’t speak volumes to our children about what is good and healthy and right.

And let’s not pretend that painting law enforcement in a negative light doesn’t influence the way in which our children will interact with them.

Let’s not pretend that we don’t have corruption in the system and evil to root out, but let’s stop pretending that anger and hatred will accomplish more than truth and unity and forgiveness.

Let’s not pretend that fear doesn’t occasionally drive us, and that it isn’t a cruel task-master when given room to rule, but let’s also not forget that mercy triumphs over judgement.

Let’s stop pretending that the Unites States’ history isn’t as ugly as it is beautiful, or that any amount of money or legally-obligated opportunity can return dignity to a people group who have been stripped of it.

Let’s not pretend that officers don’t have to fight bloody hard to keep the sinister tentacles of racism from infiltrating their hearts when the majority of their interaction with minorities is negative.

And let’s not pretend, for one second, that the media will bring anything but fuel to the fire of division that needs desperately to be tended to with wisdom, patience and bucket-loads of prayer.

Let stop with the pretense.

Let’s not pretend that both sides don’t have stories to tell, sins to confess, and gaping battle-wounds to display, but let’s also not pretend that being willing to lean in and have uncomfortable conversations at the wall that divides, cannot slowly move us in the right direction.

Let’s not pretend that our battle is against flesh and blood, or that the punches we so badly want to throw will ever touch our enemy until delivered on our knees.

Please let’s stop pretending that oppression and the dishonoring of human life is ever okay, or that our freedom wasn’t paid for at the highest possible price – both on battlefields across our land and upon a Roman cross.

Let’s stop pretending that running to rescue and protect people who unapologetically hate and disrespect you will ever be easy to live with.

Let’s stop pretending we don’t have a long, hard road ahead of us…but more importantly, let’s stop pretending that the broken road ahead is bigger than the One who made us all in His image.

So let’s stop pretending.

And let’s start believing that healing is possible.

Let’s start having hard, gritty conversations and asking awkward, uncomfortable questions.

Let’s try listening more than we speak.

Let’s stop throwing stones and let’s pour that energy into tearing down walls and building bridges.

Let’s be life-speakers and hope-spreaders and grace-givers.

Let’s not ever give up, or give in, or loosen our grip on hope.

Let’s be quick to link arms and fight for each other, rather than against.

Let’s try holding and weeping with, before shutting down and armoring up.

Let’s try falling on our faces in prayer before taking to our iPhones in rage.

Let’s try reaching out, alongside our children, to love on those outside of our little bubbles.

Let’s try leaving the comfort of our side to meet in the middle and celebrate small steps of unity.

Let’s acknowledge that we truly are better together, because we were created to function that way.

And when our hearts are raw, beaten black and blue,

let’s try weaving our stories of brokenness into a tapestry of redemption.

One simple grace-soaked thread at a time.

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“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.

In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

John 16:33

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May you remember that God is not only the God of d May you remember that God is not only
the God of destinations, but of detours.

When life takes you somewhere you never intended to go,
may you recognize that you have not been forgotten.

May you have eyes to see the people in front of you,
hands willing to gather the sticks,
courage to shake off the snakes,
a heart willing to welcome and be welcomed,
and faith to believe that even here,
especially here, God is at work.
What if the place you keep calling a detour is act What if the place you keep calling a detour is actually part of the story?

Paul was headed to Rome. Instead, he ended up shipwrecked on Malta.
It wasn't the destination. But it mattered.

A reminder for all of us: don't waste the waiting,
the detour, or the place you didn't choose.

🎙️ 042 | Make Malta Matter | Finding Purpose in Divine Detours
  The latest Oh, Good Grief Podcast episode is out now.

#OhGoodGriefPodcast #MakeMaltaMatter #SimplyBloomCo
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What if the years you thought were wasted… weren't What if the years you thought were wasted…
weren't wasted at all?

In Part 2 of my conversation with Leah Harvey,
we go deeper into what it means to trust
God when the outcome is still unknown.

Leah has spent years carrying the ache of infertility,
and she doesn't offer a tidy answer or a spiritual shortcut.

Instead, she talks about restoration.
About eternity.
About choosing Jesus over her preference.
About looking for treasure in the middle of the story.

And about the surprising realization that there
may not have been wasted years after all,
because God was present in every one of them.

He is.
Even here.
Even now.

🎧 Part Two with Leah Harvey is live now.

#OhGoodGriefPodcast #StruggleWell #StayRooted #SojournTogether
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What if trusting that God is good doesn't mean bel What if trusting that God is good doesn't mean
believing He will give us everything we ask for?

That's one of the questions my friend Leah Harvey
and I wrestle with in this week's episode.

Leah and her hubby, Jake, have walked through years
of infertility and the kind of unanswered prayer that
doesn't just hurt once—it asks you to keep
trusting God over and over again.

We talk about grief, surrender, the questions we sometimes feel afraid to ask, and what happens when we stop trying to put tidy answers over messy pain.

This is a tender conversation about choosing Jesus over our preferences, embracing the mystery of God, and learning to believe that His goodness doesn't depend on whether He gives us the thing we're asking for.

Part One of my conversation with Leah Harvey is live now
🎧  040 | The Goodness of God in the Waiting

#OhGoodGriefPodcast #StruggleWell #StayRooted #SojournTogether
Before the world told you who you needed to become Before the world told you who you needed to become...
Before fear taught you how to survive...
Before shame convinced you to hide...
God looked at you and called you His own.

Not because you had healed.
Not because you had figured yourself out.
Not because you had become your best self.
Simply because you were His.

You are still becoming.
And you are already loved.

Keep coming home.

#OhGoodGriefPodcast #SimplyBloomCo
What if the goal isn't to become a different type, What if the goal isn't to become a different type,
but to become more fully yourself?

We've spent the last several weeks exploring the Enneagram:
our gifts, wounds, coping strategies, and the stories we
learned to believe in order to survive.

Now it's time to come home.

Episode 039 closes this Summer Series by asking
what happens when self-awareness becomes surrender.

The Enneagram can help us understand our patterns.
But it was never meant to become our identity.

You are not your number.
You are not your trauma.
You are not your coping strategy.

You are a beloved child of God.

🎧 Oh, Good Grief — Episode 039 is available now.
Sitting on the front porch with a cup of coffee, m Sitting on the front porch with a cup of coffee, my Bible and a book of maps in my lap, and the sun on my face, has me thinking about how strange and beautiful life can be.

It’s no small honor to be given the opportunity to preach at our church from time to time. Had you told the broken, shoplifting, lying, giving-her-body-away-for-free teenage girl I once was that one day she’d stand in a pulpit and talk to people about God’s goodness and grace, I would have laughed at you.

But maybe that’s exactly why God delights in using the messy, the unlikely, the misfits. Because these are the stories that make His redemption impossible to miss.

One of my favorite lines from The Chosen, spoken by Mary Magdalene, sums it up perfectly: “I was one way, and now I am completely different. And the thing that happened in between was Him.”

That’s my story, too.
And if I were to hazard a guess, it's yours as well.

It’s one of my greatest joys to dig into God’s Word, share what He’s laid on my heart, offer some encouragement and conviction, confess the uncomfortable things, and ultimately point people back to Jesus.

Because there’s no denying the extraordinary power of redemption when you’ve lived it yourself.
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